Along the road of humanity you will often make mistakes or offend others in such a way that calls for a serious apology. Although it may not be enjoyable to admit your faults to another person, it is actually a sign of strength to be able to do so. The right type of apology can help mend damaged relationships and place you on a path of healing and communication that allows progression.
Confess Your Intent
Simply saying "I'm sorry" will not likely do a lot of good in most situations. The first aspect of a good apology you must focus on is confessing your intent to the person you have slighted. Transfer your emotions into words that you will communicate to the person directly. You can even write a letter if you feel your nerves will not be able to handle seeing the person. This can be done through a letter sent in email, card or a note. Letters allow you to apologize as many times as the person reads it and is a physical manifestation of tangible apology.
State what you have done when you apologize. This will enforce that you have wronged the person and shows sympathy and remorse. If you are asking for forgiveness, this approach will likely get you closer to obtaining your desire.
Make a Sacrifice to the 'Gods'
Ancient cultures often made sacrifices to the gods to appease their anger or to appeal to their better sides. While no one is asking you to slaughter a lamb, giving a gift to the person you are apologizing to will go a long way. Often if their ears are closed to your words, a peace offering will unclog the canal. You can make your gift as personal or simple a gesture as you want.
Even if you give someone something tangible to make them feel better when apologizing, nothing can make them feel as good as seeing your own personal suffering. Let them know the guilt you feel and how it is torturing you. Be willing to embarrass yourself to regain their trust by apologizing in public or doing what is necessary to show them you want to bear their burden. This will truly show them that you are serious about making amends.
